When obedience overcomes fear and pain, the submissive spirit can truly soar. The Human Candle Holder is my own style of fire play, that requires intense obedience from the submissive. Through the use of fire and hot wax, the dominant creates a unique type of sensation that can evoke fear and pain in the submissive. This fear and pain must be overcome for the submissive to obey the domme’s commands. The intensity of the play and the trust in the Mistress can help the submissive overcome their fear and eventually find a level of obedience that can lead to a feeling of empowerment. As the submissive learns to control their fear and pain, through obedience, he can learn how to focus on what is important and apply these techniques to uncomfortable situations in life.